Insight into the Brain’s Reaction During Divorce with Dr. Bill Crawford | Episode 146

Dr. Bill Crawford has written eight books, all derived from the philosophy of ‘life from the top of the mind’. During today’s conversation, he offers a psychologist’s insight into the brain’s reaction to the divorce process and how to rise above its protective mechanisms for clear, influential communication, and constructive, fair boundary setting. We begin by unpacking the philosophy underpinning all of Dr. Crawford’s work before discussing the necessity of grieving the shattered dream during the divorce process. We talk about cycle breaking and how the triune brain theory can help you to gain a better understanding of your own experience before hearing some insights into how to regain control from the angry and resentful mind. 

Key Points From This Episode:

• An introduction to Dr. Bill Crawford, his career, origins, and the eight books he has written.
• What he means by his philosophy ‘life from the top of the mind’.
• Grieving the shattered dream during the process of divorce.
• Barriers to an amicable divorce, especially with children. 
• Finding a reason to break the cycle.
• An overview of Dr. Crawford’s research into the brain, and the triune brain theory.
• How a better understanding of the brain can help you to become more influential in any discussions you may have.
• Regaining control from the angry, resentful, guilty mind.
• Asking purposeful questions.
• Identifying who you want to be. 
• His method: breathe, relax, imagine, ask, notice. 
• When the best time is to practice this. 
• Training the brain to go into life at the top of the mind.
• Communicating with people who are stuck in a lower mind. 
• The importance of not continuing to do what doesn’t work.
• Navigating difficulties later down the line.
• What to consider when bringing in a third party.
• Engaging with children as they move through parental divorce.
• Advice for authoritarian parents. 
• The importance of loving, healthy boundaries.
• What you can learn from Life from the Top of the Mind.

What is Divorce at Altitude?

Ryan Kalamaya and Amy Goscha provide tips and recommendations on issues related to divorce, separation, and co-parenting in Colorado. Ryan and Amy are the founding partners of an innovative and ambitious law firm, Kalamaya | Goscha, that pushes the boundaries to discover new frontiers in family law, personal injuries, and criminal defense in Colorado.

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